Becoming a Father

For many soon-to-be dads, the anticipation of becoming a father for the first time can feel overwhelming, and for some - create anxiety. As a new dad, your role is no less complicated than your wife or partner's. Yes, dads are lucky - they don't have to carry the baby in their tummy for 40 weeks, although adjustments for dads are made physically and emotionally as well. As the due date approaches, preparations for your baby are necessary. Acceptance and excitement is key. Many dads feel as if they had nothing to do with their baby's birth, however it is important to realize that your baby wouldn't be here without you!

Dealing With Your Emotions as a New Dad

When the baby finally arrives, many dads are tremendously relieved as well as excited. Witnessing your baby's birth - feelings of commitment, love and even passion may have surfaced for your wife or partner and child. Many dads feel a greater level of respect toward their wife or partner after the birth as well as a new motivation to provide and protect their new little one. At the same time, the feelings of the new added responsibility of caring for their child for the next 18 to 25 years can be a little overwhelming.

As a new father, it is important to deal with and acknowledge the many conflicting emotions that you may be experiencing. You should do your best to visualize yourself as the father that you really want to be and the father you wish you always had. Visualize yourself becoming as actively and emotionally involved in fatherhood as possible. For starters, get as involved as you can during your wife or partner's pregnancy and allow yourself to fully experience the joy and wonder of your child's birth. Let your emotions flow freely through you, as this can help you to better bond with your baby right from the start. It may also help you to better share this intense, emotional experience with your wife or partner.